Are you involved in a committed relationship, but falling head over hill for someone else. Well, there will come a time when you will have to make a decision on who you want to be with. The tips below will help you to do just that.
Pay attention to your emotional state
You may be confused right now. But it will be worth your while to take the time to understand the way you are feeling. Do you still love your boyfriend or are you nostalgic about the past? Are you really in love with your lover or are you in lust? Guilt and shame are other emotions that you may be experiencing. Maybe your boyfriend treats you well and it is hurting you to want someone else. You may also resent your lover for coming into your life, although you maybe excited about seeing them. However, you do know that your life will never be the same again. You are half way out the door of your pre-existing relationship and desperate to keep the door of the new one from shutting in your face.
Be honest with yourself about the way you feel
You can't control the way you feel about other people. However, the longer it takes for you to admit that you feel the way you do, the stronger your feelings can become. You are not right or wrong for feeling the way you do. So go ahead and acknowledge the fact that these feelings exist.
Weigh your options
Love is not enough to keep a relationship together. You must ask yourself several questions. Which partner loves me the most? Which partner is better able to give me what I want and need? With which partner am I more compatible? And, who makes me happiest? Knowing the answer to these questions will help you to make the best choice for yourself.
Talk to both men involved in the situation
It will be hard. But you must let them know how you feel. It is unfair to your current boyfriend for you to make plans to be with someone else while he believes you are happy together. It is also not a good idea to allow your lover to believe you are about to leave your boyfriend as you try to patch things up. You may discover that your boyfriend has been feeling the same way and didn't know how to tell you. And, now you are both relieved. Or you may discover that your lover has no intentions of getting involved in a committed relationship with you--- making your decision a lot easier.